Moving abroad with children is a challenge, however, with careful planning and preparation, moving abroad can also be one the most rewarding and fulfilling experiences a child can have. I’ve teamed up with Allianz Care to bring you some tips on moving abroad with kids to help ease the transition.
When preparing children for a move overseas it is important to remember that age matters, older children may find the prospect of moving more daunting than younger children, as they will have a wider social circle and have developed strong bonds outside the immediate family.
Regardless of age there are some preparations would be ex-pat parents can make to help ensure the move is a success.
Make your children part of the decision-making process
Tell your children sooner rather than later that they will be moving abroad, explain to them what is happening and why the family are moving. Make them feel involved at this stage by being a contributor to the decision to move.
Your children will have lots of questions, answer them honestly with as much information as you can provide. Naturally, they will raise concerns, but by allowing them to have an input on decisions such as what you will bring with you and what will be left behind, accommodation options and schools, they will have helped in the decision and know that their opinion is valued.
Explore your new home
Encourage your children to learn about their new home and get them excited about the new opportunities that they will have there.
Use the internet, DVDs and books to help your children understand what they can expect when they get to their new home. Reassure them that some things will be just like home, while others will be new exciting adventures.
If there are significant cultural or weather differences between your current home and your destination, discuss these with your children. Buy some foods from your new home and prepare a meal together with your children.
If there are new sports and activities at your destination which are unavailable at your current home, share these with your children to help give them something to look forward to and familiarise themselves with the destination.
Help children acquire a new language
Expats families may face a lingual barrier at first when moving overseas, especially for those children that are not attending schools yet, which could vary from 1 to 5 years of age. There are so many language learning apps that can help children learn whilst having fun.
How can parents help integrate their children into the new society?
Parents are recommended to join local playgroups, mothers & toddlers meetings or even enrol their children to a Montessori or pre-school. These are great opportunities for parents to get to know other parents and expand their network, which may lead to their child getting playdates with local children, and developing a new language by the time they go to primary school.
Create a home from home
In the initial stages, familiarity will be very important to your children when you reach your destination.
To help them feel settled and at home, it is essential that you bring favourite items and toys, even if it would be less expensive to purchase them again when you get there.
Don’t do the packing for your children, involve them in the process and let them have an input on what they will bring and what will get left behind.
Children will feel they are leaving a lot behind, both possessions and relationships. Recreate as much of ‘home’ in your new destination as possible. Ensure that they understand they can speak with friends and extended family members via Skype, telephone, email and social media regularly, and they will not be forgotten.
Help your children say goodbye
Perhaps the greatest concern your children will express will be leaving friends and family behind.
Although this will be a difficult process, it is important not to avoid the subject, discuss it openly and honestly with your children and try to assuage their concerns.
A proper goodbye can make the transition to beginning life in a new country much easier. Hold a party for your children’s friends and extended family, help them to prepare gifts to give to their friends as mementoes, such as photos.
While moving abroad can be a challenge, it can also be the beginning of a rewarding new adventure for you and your children. It is important to look after a child’s physical health and wellbeing too with a comprehensive international health insurance policy that will enable you to access the healthcare when and where you need it.
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Jackie says
This is all really good advice and tips! I actually have a family friend that is moving with their kids to a different country soon
Talya says
Such an informative post. We moved back from Singapore to England so know what a huge change this can be. Exciting for sure, but there is quite a lot you can do to help children with the transition.
ESHR PRKR says
Oh my goodness, this is such a powerful read. This brought me back to my earliest years when I moved from Turks and Caicos to the U.S. I was an art student so exhibitions and a or of after school activities helped me to adjust. I also picked up a third language which I can read and write! I say this to say your reccomendationa are spot on because I loved it when it’s my late mother. Shout out to Allianz Care too 🙂
veyroniqa says
I’ve always seen children as highly resilient and adaptable, but it was a good read! Thanks for the insight.
Heather says
I often wonder what it would be like to move abroad and have always reconsidered because of the kids. I love your tips!
Thislittlemom says
I have quite often thought about moving abroad. Even moving within my country and these tips are great!
Nancy says
We moved from Canada to California back in 2014, and drove a gigantic 17 foot UHaul across North America while we drove all our stuff down in it – and my car attached to a trailer on the back. It was nuts
Catherine says
It can be so tricky relocating with little ones…these are important tips and reminders for those families traveling abroad.
Jay Aguirre says
Interesting tips here. I can imagine it’s quite difficult moving abroad with children. My parents had to do it with three kids when we immigrated to the U.S.
Melanie williams says
There are some really sound and sensible tips here. Making children part of the decision making process is key for sure x
Monica says
All the tips are sip true as I have tried myself. We moved 3 countries until our child turned 10. We involved her in the beginning of the process so she was always very adaptable. Moving with children adds into the excitement and makes the whole journey living abroad an enhancing opportunity