Thank you to Kris for this guest post about the differences between her first and second child.  Kris blogs over at Max and Kai, writing about the adventures they get up to x


Difference between the 1st and 2nd child


The title to this post sounds like a pair of fighters from a game like street fighter.

Max and Kai are my sons (in case you hadn’t guessed)

The old saying that no 2 pregnancies are the same is so true and the saying definitely applies to children.

I honestly believed that my second birth would happen in the same timeline that I had with Max. He decided to make an appearance at 37 weeks and 5 days. Kai on the other hand was very cosy and didn’t show up until I was 41 weeks. Those extra weeks were the longest of my pregnant life and I was more than ready for him to show up.

The labours were also chalk and cheese. With Max I had no clue what I was doing, I had to let the midwife basically boss me about. It was ok though, that was what I needed at the time. Labour with Kai whilst extremely painful was a lot quicker and more controlled.

Max v’s Kai- The Labour
Max – I went into labour at 37 +5, my waters went naturally at 2 pm contractions began shortly after and he was born at 3.07 pm on the 8th November 2014. I only had gas and air but needed a drip because I was severely dehydrated. We had a traditional legs in stirrups.

Kai- Kai came at 41 weeks, he enjoyed keeping me waiting. I had 2 incomplete sweeps (don’t recommend them at all). contractions started at 5am after a horrific bloody show and baby was born at 12.36 pm. I had gas and air again, this time we got to use the birth pool which was awesome but he was born in a bed after a last-minute dash to the ward.

Max v’s Kai – The first 3 months
The first 13 weeks or so with these 2 couldn’t have been more different. By the time Max was 3 months he had already banked the first of three hospital stays due to a UTI. Touch wood Kai has been in good health apart from teething (I know already, I’m gutted I didn’t want it to happen so soon).

Both boys were out of the Moses basket and in their own rooms by 12 weeks. Max at this point was sleeping from 11.30 pm till 8 am and Kai goes to bed at 8 pm till about 7am whether he’s tired or not. As a mum to Kai I’m a bit more strict with the routine, I can’t believe Max used to stay up till 11.30 pm and I thought that was good.

Bath Time
Max used to hate having a bath and would scream his big head off. Kai loves it especially if you dribble water over his body. I do wonder if that has to do with the time of year it was cold when Max was a bubba whereas Kai has had time to acclimatize to the weather being a July baby.

The boys pretty much match each other for milk. Max loved his milk and Kai is drinking 7 oz every 3 hours or so. Kai is definitely more sickly than Max was, I wasn’t really prepared for that.

I’ll wrap this post up by saying both boys have big personalities especially Max who is about to turn 2. No 2 children are the same but we’ve been blessed with 2 gorgeous ones.

How did your first and second pregnancies/children compare?



5 Comments on The difference between the 1st and 2nd child – Maximus V’s Kaiser

  1. Both my boys are completely different too, the pregnancies, labour and personalities. There are 10 years between them so it’s almost like doing it all over again 🙂

  2. We also have two kids and they are miles apart in terms of everything from sleep to eating… two totally different experiences from birth (one natural and one c section) to gender (one of each) and as for bath times and bed times… worlds apart.

  3. I have 2 sons now aged 23 and 20. They are soo different in so many ways and I love them both all the same. 1st pregnancy I had lots of energy, hardly slept as was hyperactive, no cravings but couldn’t eat chocolate or chicken as made me sick until the last 2 weeks of pregnancy then I wolfed as much as I could down.
    Liam who is 23 was born on time with a few complications, 20 hour labour. skin conditions and tonnes of creams later then diagnosed him with an egg allergy when he was 1 then a tree nut allergy when he was 4 1/2. Didn’t walk tithe was 13 mths.Miraculously he has survived and thrived. 2nd pregnancy I was ill from the day I found out until the day I had him, I got alopecia. Tired all the time, had to go to the dentist and get lots of fillings, sick with most food. Callum who is 20 was born nearly 3 weeks after my due date. 4 hrs labour. On full strength milk when left the hospital. Walked at 8 1/2 mths, still going and hyper never seems to stop

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